Do you need to sort your life out?

“I feel overworked at home and at work. I’m always rushing from one thing to another and I feel like nothing is ever done right. I’m stressed out and unhappy all the time. I’m so fed up,  I wish I could get my life sorted out.”

Claire’s Virtual Balance chart revealed a lack of support systems in her life. As a single parent, she had no-one at home to share the burden and she was unwilling to turn to her family for help, or seek traditional therapy or counselling. She said she had “no time” to make friends and she was descending into a vicious spiral. Because she had no friends she had no-one to look after the children whilst she went out and made new friends! The problem was sorted out when Claire took the plunge and joined a Saturday morning swimming club. She and the children enjoyed spending leisure time together. Claire made new friends and began to see a life beyond home and work.

“I am under so much pressure at work, I am overloaded and because I’m always too busy there’s no time to think. At home, I can’t relax, I am always too tired to play with the kids. I’ve got to get a grip and sort this out!”

The answer for David was to look at the way he organised his work. His department had a “macho” culture with mid-level managers encouraged to start early and work late. Much of the pressure arose from last-minute demands: meetings were called at a few hours’ notice, reports were expected to be ready in unreasonably short timescales. David had to learn two important skills: time management and the ability to say “no”! Sorting out time management was far easier than saying no to the boss, but we found ways to help him be firm without being seen as unhelpful and obstructive. In fact, the boss came to respect his abilities and he gained a reputation as a reliable, steady and dependable member of the team. As work pressure lessened, he was able to put the job out of his mind when at home and enjoy his family time whole-heartedly. All without the assistance of therapy or counselling.

“My work is important to me but problems at home need sorting out as well. Because I am a professional person, the family looks to me for advice and help and I can’t cope with so many demands.”

Yasmin was taking responsibility for problems that weren’t hers, and was constantly worrying about what was happening at home whilst she was out at work. She felt that everything was resting on her shoulders and she was letting the family down by admitting she couldn’t cope. Our first priority was to sort out a way for her to share the burden and she found to her surprise and delight that her sister-in-law was just waiting to be asked.

The next issue was how to help her let go of her anxious thoughts. I taught her a visualisation technique that helped her to let go of her worries about the family and to feel calm and confident about them whilst she concentrated on taking care of business. The family problems still need to be sorted out, but Yasmin is in much better shape to help. Yasmin found that Virtual Balance was a much better alternative to traditional counselling, therapy or life coaching for her circumstances and now feels stronger and empowered to work on her family problems.

Do these stories sound familiar? Could this be you? Think a personal consultation may help?
If so, you’ve come to the right place. Have a look round my website. Read my blog. Contact me for a chat. There are no hidden extras, no commitment to a lengthy series of consultations, no merchandise on sale and no software to download. What you see is what you get: not a life coach, but someone to talk to, someone to help you to cope, someone to sort things out with you.

I can support you in sorting out your life.